A rural Kansas family believes that love conquers all and good will always win out over evil until their daughter meets a young combat soldier with a bright future just as Iraq is breaking out.

Hi,

It sounds like the goal is to more or less remain in control as her life spirals out of control. Personally I think the story would work better if the soldier was her son. The mother and son bond is recognizable and therefore will make your story more plausible. I think a newly introduced boyfriend won't offer the investment emotionally that your logline suggests.

Perhaps she becomes obsessive to the point that she neglects the rest of the family, thus creating tension and resentment.

My only other suggestion would be to focus on the human elements rather than the patriotism so that it has universal appeal - assuming you want universal appeal.

I'm falling in love with you, dpg. Thanks for pushing me through this stage.
Her objective is to lead her family into becoming a supportive military family WITHOUT isolating herself or distancing herself - without losing her relationships with the 99% of America that is the non-military culture.
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It's a character virtue to be compassionate and concerned about others, to wish them happiness and success. But it is a character flaw to be emotionally dependent, on others; to have one's happiness contingent on the happiness and welfare of others.

But again, that's a subjective issue. Ditto with "widening her world view"; not only is it subjective, it's not her dramatic goal. It's not something she desperately wants to amend, revise, or abandon for a "wider her world view". Rather she wants to defend and preserve her narrow and na?ve and illusionary world view against harsh reality. Defending a "narrow world view" doesn't work as an objective goal because: 1] it's fundamentally a subjective need; and 2] it's passive and reactive.

The question in my mind is: what is a specific objective goal (person, place or thing) that she actively and outwardly (you can see the struggle right there on the screen) struggles to obtain?